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Can they work, do they work? Aside from the distance, what’s the real difference?
Wouldn’t it be swish to meet someone like-minded from another country?
The time apart before meeting is good to learn about each other, moreso than meeting in a Pub/Bar.
There’s the anticipation of first meeting, you’d possibly value the together time better, plus the time apart strengthens the bond and paves way for future meetings.
You’re able to travel more, do more, see more, etc.
I was once engaged to a New Yorker after this 3.5 year build-up, we’d been Penpals for around 11 months prior. Yeah, she ended up being too scared for the wedding and blamed me, yet I sure as hell tried to do all I could! We remained friends afterwards, but I’ve always been resentful and it took years to \"move on.\"
It appears women don’t handle these things as well as men, going on those I’ve seen… You hadn’t been together before meeting, so why’s the long distance so difficult once couples are an item?
Could you do it?
I’ve never seen the big deal on distances and I’d always fallen for people I can’t have, even though we were clearly connected. Life’s cruel way, but then those Shrooms were always a problem.
Tough, or easy?
Made a huge decision this year myself: I’ll stay single or be with someone special, I’m not dating people out of convenience.
On the downer there’s often financial implications, sometimes Visas and such, lots of hidden and potential problems.
That’s my muse in short, just genuinely interested to hear other people’s opinions on this part of life…
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Well Dazey wouldn’t this fall back on the love aspect? If love is there, then love overcomes all obstacles right? I once was with someone that moved to Florida and then I made a dumb decision and moved there with him when I was 18-I thought it was love-of course he was never around much. Supposedly working late, He was at the bar with his boss…
Absence is supposed to make the heart grow fonder.
So I guess if the true love is there in the relationship it could work out.
Seeing new places, cultures, new adventures could be what the heart needs….
Or I am just an optimistic sucker
But why wouldn’t anyone want the butterflies that accompany the waiting to see the person you love. Isn’t that the feeling we all want all the time with the person we love? Do we keep the relationship alive with adventure? And what if the other is not up for adventure?and yup you take on some one else’s debt when you tie the knot and that sucks, unless there’s a prenup…
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Apparently, \"love conquers all.\"
Despite life’s infinite knock-backs, I believe it’s good to be an optimistic sucker! What’s interesting to me is how no matter what, when ya love someone, no obstacle seems too much. Life’s most powerful emotion, perhaps…
Zwan: \"Desires, fade away.\" As you say, Reggles, the butterflies are definitely an awesome part of it all imho. Without that the song becomes true.
Taking marriage as another example, I don’t see the problem with that either in itself, until that ugly money thing enters the mix once again. Scared of marriage, I’ll never understand why, although I don’t care whether it ever happened to me or not.
Back on-track though: It’s the magic that makes it for me, I feel after my experiences now that a local attraction just wouldn’t last. Jaded or honest, who’s to ever judge.
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Long distance relationship is possible when we are living in this era with every house having at least a Mr. Puter. We get connected and interacted with each others in a second with just a few clicks away.
And most of the friends and acquaintances that I came across got hooked-up with their soul mate through the cyberspace. And Iâm one of them too.
When we have finally met, it was really awkward to be with someone you have never met before and only interacted through the chat program. And having to deal with the bad behaviours/ habits, the culture differences, it almost killed the two of us because the relationship was like an egg at the edge of the rock.
What make it worst was we only spend like 6-8 weeks in a year with a lot of travelling and thatâs very costly too
. Honestly, the relationship was tough and we have been through ups and downs for the first two years but we are glad that we have improved and hope to celebrate many anniversary in the years to come. Iâm glad and dancing in joy for founding him. He has been there reaching his hand for me to help me getting out from that big dark hole that I have been living in for years. I wouldnât be who Iâm today if I didnât let go my past.
Dazey, I hope you will find your special someone one day. And as the famous saying âThing happen for a reason.â So donât stop it and just follow the flows.
Cheers!
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i have never really had a long distance relationship, so i wouldn’t know about any of it, but i think if the two people want to be together in a relationship, it can work till they are able to be together in the same place. that is if they both want it to work.[/quote:3a5oc58w]
Thats also what i think.For me, i know for sure i could never fall in love with someone from the internet. Reason is i need that physical attraction from a person before falling in love.I could never get that from the internet.One of my male freinds found a girl via the internet and they are still together after 5 years and they got 2 kids as well.Guess it works for some people, but its nothing for me.
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Seeing how swish things are with yourself and Arthur, S, just makes me even more positive towards things that many find ‘too much.’
I suppose for me over the years, knowing somebody before seeing pics, etc., has always worked out far more rewarding.
In an ideal world I’d have been wired like mayonaise, sadly I just can’t seem to do anything in life the easier way.
\"Different strokes for different folks,\" as they say.
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Try to tell me what I shouldn’t do
You should know by now, I won’t listen to you
Walk around with my hands up in the air
Cause I don’t careCause I’m alright I’m fine
Just freak out let it goI’m gonna live my life
I can’t ever run and hide I wont compromise cause I’ll never know
I’m gonna close my eyes
I can’t watch the time go by
I won’t keep it inside
Freak out let it go
Just freak out let it goYou don’t always have to do everything right
Stand up for yourself
And put up a fight
Walk around with your hands up in the air like you don’t careCause I’m alright I’m fine
Just freak out let it goI’m gonna live my life
I can’t ever run and hide I wont compromise cause I’ll never know
I’m gonna close my eyes
I can’t watch the time go by
I won’t keep it inside
Freak out let it go.
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Funny, I named this site after the first lines of that song…
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My mother likes that song. But she likes everything with \"honey\" in it.
Now that I think of it, I think I’m currently in some sort of long-distance relationship…just I’ve been avoided the fact that it’s a relationship. And he isn’t. And he reminds me of it every single day. Fuck I’m just so scared of relationships….
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another site got their name from that song too.
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Must be HipstersUnited then.
But yeah, this site is also linked to Cherub Rock. We are freaks here, either fan-wise or collecting-wise, and it’s the first word of the first song of Siamese Dream, my favourite album. How much more cross-reference do you want? So, 5 years ago I thought SPfreaks would be a pretty cool name…
Back to topic, I was in a long distance relationship also for almost 3 years with an Asian girl I met online, and I was not much into it either at first. But it happened based on some silly jokes that made me laugh, same music taste, few pics and then after about half a year my first visit to her. We had some issues to overcome, personality-wise & culture wise, but we are now living together for a month already. And so far I’m very glad I hold on to this relationship. We had to learn each other by talking instead of having physical contact, so the lusty part couldn’t influence the decisions too much… You get what I mean I guess.
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Can they work, do they work? Aside from the distance, what’s the real difference?
Wouldn’t it be swish to meet someone like-minded from another country?
The time apart before meeting is good to learn about each other, moreso than meeting in a Pub/Bar.
There’s the anticipation of first meeting, you’d possibly value the together time better, plus the time apart strengthens the bond and paves way for future meetings.[/quote:2ekqiobt]
You are implying that a long-distance relationship involves getting to know each other online. That’s not always the case.I’m in a long-distance relationship and it sucks because I want to live together and I really hope we can be in a couple of months.
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\"Mrs Lavigne’s busy and not taking calls.\"
\"I’m sorry, Mrs Lavigne doesn’t allowe her private number to be shared.\"Charming.
Married, now? Didn’t bother telling me about it, how rude. Not taking calls? After all the Roses I sent, bah just lost interest. Playing \"hard to get\" I can understand, it was all too one-way though and the relationship was in trouble before it even started.
Cameron’s more likely to date me, so I’ve heard, I’m one of Europe’s finest slabs of ass.
We’ll see.
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